People have a tendency, a tendency of being great. Being great, right, intelligent, smart, perfect which is fine, which is actually great.

What they also feel is entitlement – the entitlement of having something to them, for them, absolutely for them. That too is fine.

But what’s not fine is them faking being grounded.

What is being Grounded?
It’s the art of being oneself, attached to the roots, where your successes, and achievements don’t blind you and are in a position to welcome, live, and enjoy life with others with their beliefs, and choices, respect & welcome them.

One aspect of groundedness is that a person is really genuinely helpful and grateful without thinking of return / not being shallow or what the universe will pay them in return for being kind, grounded or good towards people. They don’t care about “what should be the ideal way of being someone!” or in simpler language – an ideal way of following how “should” be kind towards people for how it “should” be!

These people are the most hypocritical people of all – they try being supportive/kind/helpful / listening to others but unintentionally that becomes subject to their convenience. They live under the superficial idea of being grounded.

As long as you are being whoever you are under their era of limelight – they’ll be fine – they’ll be there for you – they’ll try to push sky to earth to help you out. But – not because of what their personality is – but because – this gives them a sense of entitlement & power. Entitlement and power to have someone under them, under the need of being helpful! They get to be the person of being the bigger person in the picture.

Of course, being such a person is not wrong – absolutely it’s better than being too mean and insensitive towards others in all situations. But what’s wrong here is the idea of them thinking that their personality is kind, calm, and helpful. No dear person, it’s not! Your personality isn’t at all kind, helpful, or poised – you are a delusional person living under your bubble of being kind but in fact, you are a person you act to be kind/helpful/poised for your own convenience and success! Because for a fact you know that being such a person – life gives you back, life respects you. But darling, life does become kind to you, life does give you benefits & opportunities for being one but not to those who are living under the idea of “being kind” but it gives to those who are kind, genuine, helpful by their personality, their charm, their aura – who doesn’t have any benefit of interest out of anyone or think to get one. Life becomes kind to them.

The fake groundedness only will limit you from looking at the world with your limited experience to what you have gone through – your experience could be vast in your eyes but eventually, it’s not even a % as compared to the universe and the kind of experiences each individual could have because of their multiple reasons; life, growth, aspirations, opportunities, decisions, exposure, mindset, etc. It can’t be similar for all – No one size fits all. And comparing with your own set beliefs & limits is just being unfair towards others not you being right. 

Looking / Weighing people from their own perspectives and being open to hearing them out, seeing their choices and being open to listening to them without having a set belief/expectation is a sense of groundedness I believe. The outcome could be anything but analysing and judging a person from your eyes / based on your set beliefs is a classic sign of “Fake Groundedness.”

Hope you’ve faced this already to learn and realise.

Ps. Everything written or expressed isn’t directed to anyone or targeted and is just a thought of expressions – subject to each & everyone’s understanding of the context and content.